Many men notice a pattern that feels confusing but repeatable.
Before commitment—during dating or courtship—the man initiates:
After marriage or long-term commitment, the dynamic often shifts:
This article does not claim to explain why marriages fail.
Instead, it proposes a hypothesis—one possible lens among many—that future researchers, sociologists, psychologists, or couples themselves may choose to explore, refine, or falsify.
The intent is not to assign blame, nor to universalize gender behavior, but to surface a pattern that appears increasingly common in modern relationships and is often hidden behind vague explanations like “we grew apart.”
“If he ever does THIS, he’s a red flag.”
“All men lie, and here’s proof.”
“Ladies, never trust a man who texts you like this.”
You’ve probably seen posts like these flooding your feed. They look like relationship advice—but they’re not. They’re part of a growing wave of emotionally manipulative content we call resentment porn.
“You are what you eat” applies not just to food — but to your mind.