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Dichotomy

Society often presents things as division of two. The problem with these classifications is they are only giving us two choices when in fact other options are available.

In relationships, things are rarely a choice between two things. This causes a lot of confusion and miscommunication between men and women. Examples:

Good vs Evil​

  • Being a nice guy (being not evil) does seem to suggest that girls will like you. But they are not… it's actually repulsive to most women.
  • Just because you are a good boyfriend, your girlfriend will treat you back with respect and love. Often, good people were abused.

Male vs Female​

  • Just because someone dresses like a straight female, you could assume the person have female gender.

Beautiful vs Ugly​

  • A person that is 1/10 in attractiveness for you, could be 10/10 for someone else.

Reward vs Punishment​

  • If a husband do everything that a wife says, there will be a happy marriage. It's not. A lot of husbands find themselves nagged regardless what they do. e.g. Damn you if you do, damn you if you don't.

These real-life scenarios is what often called as False dichotomy. These are the hardest things to traverse while you are inside a relationship, and you need to be aware that things are not black and white. There are a lot of gray areas, a lot of which will be covered in this guide.